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How A BAZAAR Editor Weds: Joyann & Jeremy's Wedding in the Hudson Valley
Finding love at work is not easy for those of us in the fashion industry. In fact, the chaotic scene of fashion weeks and the female-dominated dinner parties that follow are probably the last place a single woman looking for love is likely to find her soulmate. So after 13 years in the fashion industry, then-singleBAZAAR.comEditor Joyann King began doing what she does best—editing. "I am not usually in the business of going to a ton of fashion events," she admits. "I've been doing this for a long time, so I really try to be very careful when choosing what I go to." Her finely-tuned curatorial skills were on point when she accepted an invitation to attend a dinner party at the home of designer Lela Rose two years ago. "I started talking to [Lela's] husband at cocktail hour–he's such a nice guy, super funny–and I was seated next to Lela at dinner," Joyann recalls, adding that the designer's perfectly-furnished Manhattan apartment made an instant impression. "I said, 'You've really got this whole thing figured out: beautiful family, great apartment, fun husband, amazing career...do you have anyone to set me up with?'" Jeremy's name was the first to come up when Lela turned to her husband for match-making suggestions. The next day Joyann emailed to thank Lela for dinner, closing her note with: "Feel free to send any eligible bachelors my way." Lela immediately introduced them, and the two made plans for a blind dinner date, which turned into after-dinner drinks and plans to see each other again. "I came home and I said to my sister, 'I think I just met my husband,'" Joyann smiles.
The very next day, Jeremy did the almost unthinkable in New York's dating scene—he invited her to lunch. "That sort of immediacy of wanting to see each other again was something I hadn't been used to in the New York dating world," she says. "It felt really special." That lunch lead to many more dates and weekends spent Upstate in Millbrook, NY, where the couple soon purchased a house together. The stressful undertaking of buying and moving into their first home, entertaining friends and family for housewarmings, paired with their demanding careers, proved their enduring compatibility. It's no surprise then, after 11 months of dating on their first night in Millbrook with no guests to entertain and plans for a cozy night in, that Jeremy proposed at sunset. Without pomp and circumstance, he got down on one knee with a ring inspired by a vintage piece Joyann had fallen in love with on set for aBAZAAR.comshoot–a gold filagree band with a cushion cut center stone designed by Graff. "I've always loved gold and it had an elegant antique feeling–but the single stone made it feel really modern," says Joyann.
"After our first date, I came home and I said to my sister, 'I think I just met my husband.'"
A self-confessed Type A personality, Joyann immediately set out to find the perfect wedding planner to suit her style. "I'm the oldest of two girls and the first to get married. I love to entertain, and so I was really looking forward to not just the actual wedding, but the process of planning this big event," she explains."I've learned to rely on the experts. I don't need to be the expert in everything; I wanted to work with someone who had actually done this before." Despite not knowing where they would wed, Joyann knew what she wanted in a planner–someone based outside of New York City. "I was looking for someone who had a little bit more charm, more chill, a little bit more manners and more tradition–so I started looking at Southern planners." She had a phone call with Easton Events soon after getting engaged, and "it was love at first sight," she says. Lynn Easton and Augusta Cole of Easton Events set out to help Joyann and Jeremy plan the ultimate three-day affair in the Hudson Valley. "We've always had the most fun at weddings that were semi-destination," says Joyann. "They're relatively easy and affordable to get to, but when you're there, you're in the world of the couple and their families for the entire weekend. You arrive on a Friday and you feel like you know all of the guests by Saturday night." The couple settled on Locusts on Hudson, André Balazs' estate not far from their Millbrook home, for the wedding venue:"We loved the idea of getting married in the same area where we fell in love."
In planning, some vendors were "no-brainers." On Easton's recommendation, Joyann called Ariella Chezar for florals, Olivier Cheng for the menu and cake, Christian Oth Studio for photography and made plans to showcase her event details onBAZAAR.com–and in the Winter 2019 issue ofMartha Stewart Weddings. But, it was a collaboration with Amber Moon, who designed all of the wedding's paper goods, that Joyann credits for the motifs she and Jeremy integrated throughout their affair, with the help of their planners. "One thing I think that I really felt strongly about, and I don't know why, was that I didn't want a wedding with a color scheme. And at the same time that I was planning a wedding, I was also in full design mode with this house Upstate, where we were trying to create rooms that felt at home in their environment but had a modern appeal. We wanted something romantic, but with a little edge–so we anchored everything with a hint of black. I also wanted Jeremy to feel like it was a dinner tent that he wanted to be in; I wanted there to be romance in the air, but not just feel like a woman's party–which I think a lot of weddings do." Joyann and Jeremy set out to create a welcome event, rehearsal dinner, ceremony and reception that felt equal parts theirs, achieving romance through flowers and using furnishings that felt as inviting and styled as the home they were building together.
After a small welcome dinner for close family and friends, the official wedding weekend festivities began with a rehearsal dinner that hearkened to all the design elements the couple couldn't find a place for in their ceremony design and their dinner tent décor. Bold, vibrant and bohemian yet polished furnishings decorated outdoor seating areas, where guests enjoyed food by Fire-Roasted Catering–spun over an open fire by chefs (and later in the night, by Joyann and Jeremy's friend and officiant, Marco) via a bicycle barbecue. "I wanted to flex a completely different muscle when it came to the design," Joyann says of her Friday night rehearsal dinner. "It's very popular to get married in a rustic environment where there's a barn and all this beautiful nature, so for the wedding itself, we were trying to put a city spin on that and give it a modern injection. For the rehearsal dinner, we really wanted to embrace those fun, rustic elements and that Bohemian vibe that I've always really liked: leathers and cool upholsteries, mismatched flowers, a wild color palette and that more eclectic feeling." The night before she walked down the aisle, Joyann wore a dress by her friend Jonathan Simkhai (who also custom-designed her welcome dinner dress and after party look), paired with shoes by Monique Lhuillier, earrings by Oscar de la Renta and a straw and feather evening bag by Tory Burch.
After so many years in fashion, the decisions of who would design her wedding dress could have been the most daunting. Instead of shopping for months on end, Joyann had a little help from her friends—and (most importantly) the bridal designer who had introduced her to her husband. "I knew I wanted a simple silhouette with really special lace; I loved that kind of crochet, Spanish-feeling, Guipure lace. Lela is known for her textiles and the fact that she introduced us told a really fun fashion story," Joyann explains. "I knew it wasn't going to be just a one-dress weekend; I wanted to have fun with all of my other dresses but for my ceremony, I was looking for something simple, elegant, really flattering and a little bit sexy."
"I wanted Jeremy to feel like it was a tent that he wanted to be in, too. I wanted there to be romance in the air, but not just feel like a woman's party..."
Around the time she got engaged, Paul Andrew, another friend, introduced a bridal collection to his range of super-chic shoes. "I ended up wearing an embroidered netted bootie [of his] with a stacked heel that was so comfortable." For her something borrowed, teamBAZAAR.comturned to their favorite jewelers and evening bag designers for pieces to pair with Joyann's three looks. The bride chose from options from Stephen Russell, Mindi Mond, McTeigue & McClelland, Oscar de la Renta, Marchesa and more for her wedding looks. She then designed a veil with Suzanne Couture Millinery from the Chantilly lace used in the insets on her gown's train. A handkerchief made from her mother's gown with their wedding date embroidered in blue was tucked into the ribbon of her bouquet for her somethings old and blue.
For hair and makeup, Joyann tapped Tommy Buckett and Joshua Ristaino. "I've been going to Tommy since I moved to New York—I trust him with everything. Not only is he the most amazing stylist, but everything he does is so cool and never feels like it's trying too hard. He's also a great friend; it was a no brainer to have him and his boyfriend Josh, who is a fantastic makeup artist, by my side on the day." The bride opted for an easy chignon with a bit of movement to complement the simplicity of her wedding gown and balance the glamour of her after party look, with makeup that would easily transition from natural light to candle light.
After bridal beauty prep at the main house, where the couple and their families resided all weekend, Joyann and Jeremy had their first look, family portraits and some quick cocktails before making their way to their ceremony at the barn on property. Rather then having bridesmaids, Joyann asked her sister and parents to join her at the altar: "I had a lot of friends that I would have wanted to be my bridesmaids and I felt like pushing double digits might have felt a little bit passé," says the bride. "I wanted my friends to be comfortable, and they also all have amazing personal style; I wanted them all to look and feel like themselves. I'm lucky to have had my sister be my maid of honor." Jeremy also opted for a small party: his two groomsmen, the couple's officiant, Marko, and their adult ring-bearer, Pete joined him for pre-ceremony photos. While Joyann may have opted out of 'maids, she kept the traditional aspects of them by including two flower girls, Maya and Piper Krug, who both wore white Isabel Garréton dresses and flower crowns by Ariella Chezar.
Rather than a religious officiant, the couple opted for their friend, Marko Andrus, to marry them. "We didn't really have an officiant that felt personal enough to either of us, but we knew that we wanted a semi-religious ceremony. Something that kind of felt a little traditional, but at the same time modern and inclusive to everyone in the room," Joyann explains. "Marko is an amazing father and husband and if you've ever been in a room with him, he's a total entertainer. I knew that it would make Jeremy and I both really relaxed to have him up there and that he would definitely bring laughs to the ceremony. It just seemed like the right thing to do." After the couple's vows in the barn in front of a floral backdrop created by Ariella Chezar and her team, guests tossed white petals from marble-printed boxes as the couple recessed down the aisle.
"I think we need to talk about the rain...," Joyann mentions confidently in our re-cap of her wedding. "I was reluctant to mention it in fear of sparking any ill memories of the day; rain plans are never anything a couple or a wedding planner hopes to put into action. But, in this case, it torrentially down-poured both days, and I think it was pretty incredible that we pulled it off," Joyann remembers. The rain meant a shift in plans from vows under the location's locust tree overlooking the Hudson river to a ceremony in the barn. Rather than cocktails outside by the pool, guests were handed champagne upon entry to the ceremony, and were shuttled to the dinner tent after Joyann and Jeremy's nuptials. The attentive service for each guest, which was key to the couple, was executed to perfection–not a single guest was short of an umbrella and if need be, an attendant to hold it for them.
As guests were ushered into the dinner tent, they were greeted by towering trees, modern yet soft light fixtures, two marble and gold bars, and beyond chic tablescapes. In addition to working with Easton and Ariella Chezar, "I got to partner with Casa de Perrin, which was a dream. I was a huge Instagram fan of theirs and just love everything they do. My mother is very into dishware and entertaining, so tabletop was our number one focus,"the bride admits. "I hate big table cloths. I feel like they're dated." The solution? Custom stained wood table toppers, which acted like linens in their ability to bring in texture, and layers of dishware to add depth and dimension, like black and gold scalloped Anna Weatherley chargers.
Inclusivity and modern takes on tradition were the constant themes of the evening. The entertainment and the dinner service were at the crux of the couple's desire to give their guests the best of everything–from music to food and wine. "We wanted the entire weekend to feel incredibly seamless and the service to be spectacular. We wanted our ceremony not too long, not too short, and we wanted to serve champagne to the guests beforehand. We didn't want to put guests on a bus from one location to another; the goal was to contain the party and keep that energy going. We really wanted to think about our guests first and what would be the most enjoyable for them," Joyann notes.
Cocktails flowed and dinner consisted of "food people really want to eat." From a decadent raw bar and caviar blinis during cocktail hour to heirloom tomatoes and burrata, brick chicken and actually edible wedding cake for dessert, the menu was equal parts comforting and light. Late night snacks and whimsical bite-size desserts (read: mini cones of french fries, sliders, push pops and cake bites) on the dance floor left guests raving–trust us when we say we're still thinking about the funfetti petit fours. "Our friends love to party and we didn't want anyone's glass to ever be empty. We wanted the food to be not contrived, but really delicious and the wine selection was something Jeremy sort of passionately pursued," Joyann recalls.
With good times being top priority, music and food went hand in hand. While the couple didn't want anyone's glass empty, they also wanted them on the dance floor. Elan Artists supplied the "parade of different bands. We had a super fun kind of Hamptons cover band come out for the welcome party. We had a banjo, low country band playing during the rehearsal dinner. The wedding band was an easy choice; we booked Rhythm Collective—we had heard that they really bring the house down." And that they did–keeping guests on their feet through covers of Michael Jackson, Rihanna and Drake, and nailed the country reference during their first dance to Chris Stapleton's "Tennessee Whiskey".
In case you were questioning what it means to be aBAZAARbride, sticking to your guns and your personal style is at the top of the list, and being detail-oriented yet easygoing is a close second. For Joyann and Jeremy's wedding, everything–even a rain plan–appeared seamless. Guests experienced a series of events that felt inclusive and warm, yet polished and styled. For the women ofBAZAAR.com–and especially for our top editor–trying too hard would have been the cardinal sin.
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